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With this game, your child begins to understand that you can be gone and you do come back. When all is going well, you can move to the final stages.

• Help your child cut the yarn but let the yarn drag on the floor; don't remove it yet • Continue playing the game with the strand of yarn dragging on the ground • Keep the game short and fun • Later, start playing the game without yarn • If your child resists, go back to leaving a strand of yarn on each of you until your child not longer needs it

Remember, "In order to get from what was to what will be, you must go through what is"

As with all new skills and changes in behavior, persistence is an essential tool. Replace yourself to get a breather After your child is comfortable playing the peek-a-boo game, you may start giving your child a transitional object.

• Give your child a scarf of yours (it smells like you) to learn how to fold • Practice folding the scarf before you go off to the shower • Soon your child becomes confident about folding the scarf (one or two folds is enough) • Excitedly tell your child what a good job, he or she did folding the scarf • Bring extra scarves for your child to fold while you are in the bathroom • Practice, going in and coming out quickly, then for longer times • Excitedly tell your child what a good job, he or she did folding the scarf

Notice that the focus is on your child's accomplishment, not on your leaving. You left your child with a task, you are a part of the task and you appreciate the effort your child put into learning to fold.

You may choose a project of building something or arranging cards, anything that takes some concentration and physical effort. When you do this, you have listened to and addressed the physical separation by giving your toddler a way to connect, without you remaining in the same room.

Step 4. Limits Your goal is to help your child face their fears without overwhelming them. This is a developmental stage that you can make easier and less threatening. The limit you were setting in the peek-a-boo game is; I stay here and you go away, you stay here and I go away. The peek-a-boo game helps make separation fun. Remember when setting the limits

• Stay out of power struggles by focusing on something fun • You want the limits to be achievable without inducing panic

Finding the activity that is uniquely satisfying for your child may take some trial and error. If you are calm and confident, you communicate that emotion and the limit will become a built in part of your child's growing mastery of the world. Over time, you will provide choices of activities.

• Your child learns they get to have control by making a choice based on two options you have provided for what to do while you are gone • Giving options gives your child control • You are involved and connected because you are the one providing options

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